An Exploration of Once-Useful Habits
I'm starting to form a list of habits and behaviors that are getting in my way. I need a place to put them down and unpack them, so that I can start taking steps to change. This will likely be a "working post" that I return to frequently.
- People-Pleasing
- Procrastination
- Analysis Paralysis (aka Making Decisions Slowly or Not At All)
- Not Asking for Help
- Starting Strong, Finishing Weak
I'm not proud of this list. And yet, it's also fascinating, somehow. There are so many ways these 5 elements tie together and contribute to one another. I find myself wondering...
Origins
- Which of these are the core or root behaviors that cause the other?
- How did I learn these behaviors? Where did they come from?
Costs
- What are these habits and behaviors costing me today?
- What are the costs of changing them?
Possibilities
- What would it be like to act differently?
- Is a lasting change really even possible?
- What would I need to put in place to successfully change?
Next Steps
- What experiments can I try today to begin practicing new ways of being?
My plan is to explore these 5 habits through a series of blog posts to explore these questions (and more!) and, hopefully, learn let go of these behaviors that are holding me back. It feels a little overly-simplistic and optimistic, but just "trying harder" and beating myself up about it hasn't worked up to this point, so perhaps understanding the habits better will give me new insights on how I can make more meaningful change.